Avoidance Behavior 101

Avoiding Intimacy? Avoidance Behavior 101

It’s so easy to spot someone who is avoiding intimacy.  Or is it?

Most of us think of avoidance as an outright refusal to participate in an activity or endeavor.  But if we really take a look at avoidance, we find it can be cloaked so many ways.

We make ourselves busy.  We surround ourselves with others and delve into their lives. We “work”.  We over commit.  We get too tired.  We get too wired.  We travel.  We get sick.  These are clever techniques to avoid the things that matter at home.

Exploring the world is a wonderful thing, but there’s no place like home, and if we do not do the work to maintain a healthy foundation with our partner, some day we may come home and find our cozy nest empty; even if our partner is physically there.

Avoiding that which makes us uncomfortable is human, and as we mature, we tend to get more creative in how we avoid confrontation.  So, lover beware.  Be careful not to let too much time go by without stopping to check in with your partner.  Set private time aside each week for each other.  Share your thoughts and ask your partner about theirs.  Listen.  Shut off the phone for a few hours.  Bond.

Making time for yourself and your partner is just as important as keeping your professional associations and commitments, so be mindful when creating your mental list of priorities.  Remember, at the end of the day you can’t hug your job.

Yours in the Tao,



About Sarina Stone

About Sarina Stone Certified Medical Chi Kung Educator "It's nothing serious; it's just your life." Natural Health speaker, educator and author Sarina Stone is internationally renowned for her humor, compassion, wit and candor. Ms. Stone is expertly dedicated to proving that bodies reflect one's mind and heart. Who is Sarina Stone? Ever heard of someone dying of a broken heart? After years of study and travel, Ms. Stone developed a holistic, or "Tao" view of wellness that connects physical health to mental health and self awareness. Taoist thought generally focuses on nature; emphasis being on health, longevity, compassion, moderation and gratitude. Harmony and health is the intended result of Taoist practice. She carries multiple certifications as an educator and practitioner of Medical Chi Kung under the direct supervision of Taoist Master, Mantak Chia, director of Universal Healing Tao Institute. Ms. Stone is also trained in the art of detoxifying/energizing abdominal massage, Chi Nei Tsang. She is the author and publisher of the "Tequila" series of conscious-relationship books. What does she do? Ms. Stone is available for lectures as well as offering her courses live and online. Her course subjects include Smiling Meditations for Health, Medical Chi Kung, Women's Tao Sexual Health and Abdominal Massage. Currently she is developing the Universal Chi Kids line of educational tools – a multi-media program that educates pro-active families on the healing power of a smile. She says this is her most important work to date.
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5 Responses to Avoidance Behavior 101

  1. Stephen Frost says:

    Great article Sarina! See this kind of activity and behaviour so much, in many ways it is sad as the warmth brought by love makes living so worthwhile. Be good to know more people were picking up on this and doing so self reflection on their lives to create more joy!
    Thanks for sharing and keep the good work coming!
    Stephen 🙂

  2. Sarina Stone says:

    Thanks, Stephen. Coming from a pro like you, that’s huge.

  3. Amanda Fox says:

    I don’t claim to be an expert in the field, but I do see some inconsistencies in your argument. I do, however, appreciate the fact that you took the time and effeort to write about this complex topic. Thank you.

  4. Łomża Pullian says:

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  5. Fish Oil says:

    On the first date people are expected to know whether you found your soul-mate. There is a lot of expectation put on today to meet certain requirements from one date.

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