Being A Woman

I got a letter from an old friend the other day with permission to share with my readers.  I cleaned up her spelling a bit and present this to you now.  If it sounds like my voice, it is because I cleaned up her verbiage a bit, too.

Dear Sarina

For the longest time I thought I was the easiest woman to get along with on the planet.  I’m the one all the guys tell their dating stories to because I usually commiserate with the male side of the story.  I am fiercely single.  I do not see myself as the neurotic female who brings up uncomfortable issues at midnight while lying in bed naked with her lover.  I never ask a man what he’s thinking (largely because I don’t care).   It would be out of the question to profess anything but appreciation for my lover, and would not entertain the notion of saddling a man with something silly like falling in love or asking for a commitment.

I am the “cool chick”; at least until recently.  Until now I have not been attached to the outcome of my romantic relationships.  Something, or rather some one, has changed that for me and I find myself in unfamiliar territory.  I care.

I find that with this wonderful care comes instability, passion, neuroticism, love, hate, frailty, distrust, and the most unattractive behavior.

I will absolutely bring up uncomfortable issues at midnight while my unsuspecting lover lies naked and vulnerable.  I have to fight not to ask what he’s thinking.  And frankly, I can wake up delighted with my romantic situation, be positive it’s all rubbish by mid day, and convinced we are star crossed lovers before bed.  I can do this without ever speaking to him.

No, I was not the “cool chick”.  I was the “safe chick”.  I was hoping you would publish this so all my vulnerable gal pals who make asses of themselves every day know I finally get it, and I’m sorry I judged them for being “chicks”.

Yours Truly,


Dear Anonymous,

Your letter is being published on my website and I sincerely hope chicks around the world not only read it, but “get it!”

Yours in the Tao,



About Sarina Stone

About Sarina Stone Certified Medical Chi Kung Educator "It's nothing serious; it's just your life." Natural Health speaker, educator and author Sarina Stone is internationally renowned for her humor, compassion, wit and candor. Ms. Stone is expertly dedicated to proving that bodies reflect one's mind and heart. Who is Sarina Stone? Ever heard of someone dying of a broken heart? After years of study and travel, Ms. Stone developed a holistic, or "Tao" view of wellness that connects physical health to mental health and self awareness. Taoist thought generally focuses on nature; emphasis being on health, longevity, compassion, moderation and gratitude. Harmony and health is the intended result of Taoist practice. She carries multiple certifications as an educator and practitioner of Medical Chi Kung under the direct supervision of Taoist Master, Mantak Chia, director of Universal Healing Tao Institute. Ms. Stone is also trained in the art of detoxifying/energizing abdominal massage, Chi Nei Tsang. She is the author and publisher of the "Tequila" series of conscious-relationship books. What does she do? Ms. Stone is available for lectures as well as offering her courses live and online. Her course subjects include Smiling Meditations for Health, Medical Chi Kung, Women's Tao Sexual Health and Abdominal Massage. Currently she is developing the Universal Chi Kids line of educational tools – a multi-media program that educates pro-active families on the healing power of a smile. She says this is her most important work to date.
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6 Responses to Being A Woman

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